A Grammar Lesson on Becoming Love

Believe it or not, only three people exist. In fact, it is impossible to talk about anyone else.

Before you dismiss this statement as nonsense, let me explain. In all languages, it is only possible to talk about three “persons.” We call them the First Person, the Second Person, and the Third Person. Allow me to introduce you to each of them:

The First Person: This is you. Actually, no, that’s not right — it’s me. You see, the First Person is the person who lives inside your head. When you are thinking about yourself, you are thinking about the First Person. When I am thinking about myself, I am thinking about the First Person. You are your own First Person, and I am also a First Person. When I am talking to myself, I am having a conversation with the First Person in my head: me! When we mention the First Person in language, we use words that include ourselves, such as I, me, and mine.

The Second Person: This is you, at least from my perspective. However, from your perspective, you are yourself! Confusing? I understand. See, the person you are talking to is always the Second Person. Since I am talking to you, I am talking to the Second Person. When you are talking to me, you are also talking to the Second Person. So, to summarize, the first two “persons” are the person inside your head (the First Person) and the person to whom you are talking (the Second Person).

The Third Person: This is the person who isn’t a part of the conversation. It’s “that other person” who isn’t in the room. When you and I have a conversation with each other, the First Person and the Second Person are having a conversation. When we are talking about someone else, we are talking about the Third Person. The Third Person is described by words like him, she, it, and theirs.

It’s not possible to talk about human beings who fit into any other category. You are either talking about me, yourself, or someone else. This is why – in language, at least – only three persons can exist.

Understanding this concept can help us a lot with our relationship with God. If you can understand this basic rule of grammar, then there are only two Bible verses that you need to know to be an expert in theology.

The first verse is 1 John 4:8:

“Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.”

The second verse is John 13:34:

“A new commandment I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you also must love one another.”

In these two verses, we can see that God sums up all things in the concept of Love expressed among only three people: Me, You, and Them. All of theology can be summed up like this single statement:

The First Person, the Second Person, and the Third Person must love each other.

Another way to consider this statement is this:

God (the First Person) loves You (the Second Person), and You must love Others (the Third Person).

I suspect that this is why theologians have found it necessary to develop a concept of the Trinity. Even though the word trinity does not exist anywhere in the Bible, we use it to fill a gap in our understanding of God. The obstacle of the trinitarian concept — linguistically — is that there is no “fourth person” to describe who we are in relationship to “the Big Three.” If the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit have a perfect union with each other, where do we fit into the triangle?

God invites us into this fellowship with himself, with his Son, and with his Holy Spirit. If we do not find our position in this family, assuming our appropriate places in our relationships with God and man as First Person, Second Person, and Third Person, we cannot fully participate in the love of God. To do this, you must allow God to love you, and you must love God. But you must also love all the “Third People” who are not actively participating in your loving conversation with God.

Think of it this way: Imagine you and the Father are talking, and he says:

Love my son.

Because you (as a “first person”) love the Father (as a “second person”), you must also love Jesus (as a “third person”). Because Christians have been born of God, we have the nature of God, and God’s nature is love. Because we have been born of God, we have been born of Love itself. Just as God is Love, we are Love, since we are One with the Father, with the Son, and with Each Other.

This may explain why we do not find the word trinity in the Bible. John writes that our fellowship is with the Father, the Son, and each other, but he makes no mention of the Holy Spirit in this fellowship (see 1 John 1:3). It is not that we do not have fellowship with the Holy Spirit, but rather, it is that the Holy Spirit unites the Father, the Son, and Us in a Perfect Union of Oneness. The Holy Spirit is One, and we also are One with the Father, with the Son, and with One Another in the loving union of the Holy Spirit.

The commandment of Christ is Love (see Matthew 22:36-40). Since we have been born of Love, it is impossible for us not to love, just as it is impossible for the Father and the Son to refuse to love. When a person is born of Love, that person becomes Love. For this reason, the First Person will always love every Second Person. Together, We love every Third Person, too, including our enemies (see Matthew 5:43-44).

Remember, like your Heavenly Father, you are also a “trinity.” Although you are a First Person to yourself, you are a Second Person to me and a Third Person to someone outside our conversation. You are always three people at the same time — just like God — and as a child of God, the relationship that you have with yourself, with me, and with your neighbor must be expressed in the nature you have received from your Father, Love.


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